The Law of Victims says you can’t be a victim if you don’t relinquish power to someone capable of making you a victim. When you bequeath control to others, you essentially become a hitchhiker with no seat belt. You take the passenger seat in a stranger’s car, which could be murderous to your financial plan. And when that happens, you’re vulnerable to joining the ranks of victims.
The road to victimhood is through denial: First responsibility, then accountability.
People who don’t take responsibility are victims. Some of them are born victims and, instead of trying to improve their hand, they fold and give up. For them, everyone has the solution to their problems but them. And their problems? Not their fault. Nope, someone else is to blame. Instead of looking within, they look outward and project responsibility to some other entity. Victims are Sidewalkers who refuse to take the driver’s seat of their own lives and live under a dark cloud of “theys” reflective of a “me against them” attitude.
“They laid me off.” “They changed the terms.” “They cheated me.” “They didn’t tell me.” “They raised my rent.” “They raised my interest rate.”
Invariably, all these “theys” are self-imposed. If the landlord raised your rent, is it his fault you decided to live there and you didn’t read the lease agreement? If the company laid you off, is it their fault you chose to work there? Was it my fault that I was a broke 25-year-old stuck in a blizzard in a limo on the side of the road? It was.
There was a recent labor union rally against Wal-Mart from employees disgruntled with the retailer’s poor wages. A 33-year-old employee named Eugene complained about his employer arguing that he spent three years unloading trucks for $11.15 an hour, which was below the retail industry average of $12.95 an hour. His grievance? He can’t afford a car or Wal-Mart’s health insurance.
Wow, how disturbing. Was someone arrested? Seriously, someone should arrest the man who put the loaded gun to Eugene’s head forcing him to work at Wal-Mart for a below-market wage! Give this guy a bitch-slap. No one forced him to work at Wal-Mart; he works there because he chose to work there. Hey, Eugene, if you’re tired of making $11 an hour, raise your value to society. Get your ass over to the library. Wal-Mart can’t offer low wages if they don’t have an endless supply of victims like you.
You see, when a financial adviser promises you 14% guaranteed income from a bank certificate of deposit and you later discover that he scammed you, it’s your fault. You didn’t do the diligence. You didn’t investigate. You ignored the tickle of logic in your brain. You are a victim of your own malfeasance.”
-Chapter 9, Page 70 “The Millionaire Fastlane” by MJ DeMarco